How to Be Responsible
This is not techie at all, but This can be apply to "Anyone"
- Understand that responsibility is earned. It's not something
you're entitled to. If someone is hesitant to give you additional
responsibility, it's probably because you've been nonchalant with the
responsibilities you already have. And you might think "But the
responsibilities I have now are so petty/boring/etc., and if I'm given
more of a challenge, I'll take it more seriously." But that's a classic
characteristic of irresponsible people. They do things as long as
they're challenging, fun, and new, and when that fades, they lose
interest. A responsible person does what they said they'd do, because
they said they would. Period. So if you want to be seen as more
responsible, think about the responsibilities you already have, and
take them more seriously, no matter how pointless they might seem.
Consider it a way to pay your dues.
- Stop making excuses. In any situation, there are always some
factors we can't control. Irresponsible people tend to shift the blame
onto those factors, and vocalize them as excuses. Anytime you make an
excuse, it's like saying "I am not responsible for this because..." and
what you're really saying is "I am not responsible." Pay attention to
how you think and talk--do you find yourself making excuses? Excuses
come in many shapes and sizes, but the most common is "I
- View yourself as a creator, not a victim, of circumstance.
No one has complete control over how things turn out, but unless you're
being forced to do something against your will, you still have a chance
to influence the outcome. Many people who don't take responsibility for
their lives see themselves as helpless, and their own efforts as
futile. If this is how you feel, read up on How to Be Optimistic and How to Be Bold.
- Overcome your fear of failure. When you take responsibility
for something, it essentially means that you'll take the blame if it
doesn't work out. So it's easy to fall back on the idea that if you
don't take responsibility, you'll never fail. But the only way you can
succeed is if you allow yourself to make mistakes that you can learn
from. In other words, it's not the end of the world if you mess up! And
if there's someone in your life who's making it seem that way, they're
probably assigning you too much responsibility (perhaps so that they
can shed some of their own).
- Acknowledge your role. Whether something goes right or
wrong, make it a point to announce your role in the situation to the
people involved. If the dog peed on the carpet, and you ignored its
whimpering and scratching at the door right before it happened, apologize
to your parents or roommates. If the dog rolled over on command, and
it's because you'd been training it for 20 minutes a day, say so! Don't
be shy about admitting your mistakes as well as taking credit for your
efforts. Not only will it reinforce your own sense of responsibility,
but it will also gain respect (from anyone whose respect is worth getting).
- Don't bite off more than you can chew. It's not responsible to make commitments that you probably can't keep, even if you really, really, really want to keep them. Sometimes saying "no" is the most responsible thing to do. If you have too much on your plate, learn how to say "no" and how to delegate. If you're stretching yourself thin trying to keep everyone happy, you might also want to learn how to stop being a people pleaser. Either way, there is such a thing as taking on too much responsibility, and that is irresponsible in and of itself.